A Thirty Something's Guide to Your First Miscarriage
What’s it really like to lose a baby? This short film offers a raw, darkly funny and deeply personal answer. Inspired by the real-life miscarriage of one of our writer/directors, it follows a thirty-something woman through the chaotic, surreal reality of her first loss. Blending theatre and film, with bold humour and honesty, it challenges stigma and breaks the silence around pregnancy loss.
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A Thirty Something's Guide to Your First Miscarriage
WHO?
Hungryman Director duo Riot (Amy Fasey and Nathalie Vincent), award-winning miscarriage podcast and community The Worst Girl Gang Ever, Bafta winning producer Sophie Fitzgerald, and Shakyra Dowling Casting have teamed up to make ‘A 30 Something’s Guide to Your First Miscarriage’.
WHAT?
In this whacky fever dream short film, a thirty something woman takes us along for the ride of her funny yet heartbreaking journey through her first miscarriage, using irreverent humour to expose the emotional chaos, societal silence, and her eventual path to acceptance.
A RIDE?
Yeah our lead is literally in a medical gown, in stirrups the whole time. In hospital, in bed at home, in a game show, at family dinner…
SOUNDS AMBITIOUS!
It is, which is why we’re so excited. Imagine a theatre show, in the round, but on film. That’s how we’re treating this. Moving walls, props appearing from the dark, scenes that seamlessly blend into one. We have a choreographer as part of the core team who will be mapping out the invisible transitions between scenes.
WHY MISCARRIAGE?
Do you know how few pieces of art there are that centre around it? It’s such a common part of so many women’s pregnancy journeys but it’s so difficult and fragile that people so often just whisper about it in corners of cafes, hoping that no-one sees them crying.
IS MISCARRIAGE REALLY THAT COMMON?
It’s more common than most people realise. Estimates put miscarriage at around 1 in 4 known pregnancies, and many more very early losses go unrecognised. Baby loss charity Tommy’s claim that 1 in 2 of us have experienced a baby loss or know someone who has. That gap between frequency and public visibility is exactly why this film matters. We wanted to create the film we went looking for. Something to make women feel less alone that finally addresses the dark, and at moments, lighter sides of loss.
THE 'LIGHTER' SIDE OF LOSS?
Comedy in the arts - from black comedies and bittersweet films to rap songs, visual art, and dance - offer a crucial means of reckoning with loss: they humanise grief, make painful emotions more approachable, and create communal spaces for healing. Laughter and tenderness can coexist with mourning. When art shows the funny, surreal, or tender moments in sad times, it can help people handle messy feelings, catch a breather, and remember that strength can grow right alongside sorrow.
SO IS THIS FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE?
Heartbreakingly very much so, yes.
WHERE’S THE MONEY GOING?
Everywhere. Rule no 1: everyone is getting paid (unless they have already waived their fee). The cast, set designer, stylist, editor, designer, grader, gaffer, DOP, runners. Then there’s music licensing, location and prop hiring, hair and makeup, catering… this is being created and run as a proper shoot. No cut corners. This isn’t a half-baked passion project: your money funds real crew, real locations, music, post, and a finish that matches the ambition.
TALKING OF MONEY, WHY SHOULD I GIVE YOU MINE?
Because this is rare, brave work that actually speaks to a huge, underrepresented experience - miscarriage - in a way that’s honest, humane and unexpectedly funny. Your support helps get a film made that people (mostly women) have been hunting for: something that breaks the silence, starts conversations, and makes viewers feel less alone. You’ll be backing impact, not just content. This film offers representation, connection, and a new language for grief - tangible cultural value that matters to audiences and communities.
So although the world is bleak and everyone’s f**king skint, We ask you this, please give anything you can. Because this might make a real difference in how people respond to baby loss. It might teach someone something. Show a side to miscarriage no-one ever talks about. Or make just one person feel just that little bit more human.
I’M A BRAND - CAN I SPONSOR THIS?
Absolutely. We welcome it. A film like this can spark media coverage, podcast tie-ins, festival runs, and community screenings, all ways to amplify your brand’s commitment to mental health, women’s stories, and cultural change. We’re hoping this is the kind of short that people talk about, write about, and tag friends in. That visibility is valuable for sponsors who want their name attached to smart, socially relevant storytelling.
OKAY, OKAY I’M IN.
You’re amazing. We’ll be inviting everyone who donates to join us for our screening at Everyman - they’re already onboard - we just need a film to give to them and now, thanks to you, we’re a step closer to making that happen.